Welcome back or to Salem, my lovely sex gods and goddesses.
It’s an absolute pleasure to have you here. I’ve been missing our titillating conversations and can’t wait to get back into the swing of things. I’d love to hear all about your sexcapades and how all your sweet summer lovin’ went, but I think first I think I need to chat with the new sex kittens on campus. That’s right, first years, I’m looking at you.
As much new independence as you have, chances are you have a roommate. It is so important to be open and honest with this person. I get how awkward it can feel to try having a conversation with your roommate about sex, but wouldn’t it be worse for your roommate to just walk in on you? Been there, done that, and trust me, it isn’t fun. It’s best to come up with some sort of code, so you both know when the other should probably not be there.
More than likely, unless you’re hella good at planning, sex usually just kind of happens in the heat of the moment. You could potentially text your roommate something along the lines of “about to marathon the Big Bang Theory for an hour and a half, just so you know” or maybe draw a picture of a star on the whiteboard to alert them not to just come on in. It doesn’t have to be as obvious as a sock on the door to get the point across.
Now, this doesn’t mean that you should be using your room as a place to “marathon the Big Bang Theory” 24/7. This space is equally your roommates as well. It is so important to keep that in mind and always be respectful of that. Also, never have sex on anything of your roommate’s. It’s rude and it is not okay. You have your own side which you can creatively use your imagination for. Try to be conscious of your noise levels as well. These walls are thinner than you think.
Lastly, keep in mind that the health center is free and allows you access to practice safe sex. They carry both dental dams and condoms. There is also monthly free STI testing. Don’t ever feel embarrassed to ask anyone there questions or for help if needed.