Hello Dears,
Society’s increasingly liberal views on sex are often pointed to as a negative. However, I would like to propose that this is a positive. It has given people a unique opportunity to safely pursue things that they may be interested in that would have been taboo, and therefore potentially dangerous, otherwise. Just one example of this is group sex.
It is not uncommon for one to be interested in inviting others into the bedroom. But at first it may seem nearly impossible to most people. As I often claim and as is true with most sex acts, communication is key. Be wary of situations in which group sex seems to come up by surprise in a group of potentially intoxicated people. The best way to experience group sex is to spend a lot of time discussing it and even planning it before. If you have a primary partner make sure to bring it up with them first and gauge their level of interest as well as set soft and hard boundaries with each other so that you know what you both are comfortable with.
Finding people who are interested in joining can sometimes be the hardest part of group sex. One common method is for partners to make joint dating profiles to find people online. Other times you may realize that a friend is potentially interested in joining. Either way discussion beforehand is necessary to ensure that everything that happens in consensual and also to maintain good relationships with everyone involved.
Once you’ve got together the group of people who are all interested in having sex with each other, make sure to have a sober conversation before anything gets started, perhaps even on an entirely separate day, in order to make sure that everyone has established what their boundaries are. Additionally, recognize that these boundaries may change up to and during the group sex itself. Some different aspects of group sex to take into consideration and discuss include protection, language to be used during sex, specific acts that one might be interested in trying or not interested in at all, and during the act periodically checking in to make sure that everyone’s needs are being met is often a good idea.
Group sex ultimately is just another way that one can explore their sexual interests and have fun. Thankfully, now that it is becoming less taboo it is easier to do so in a safe and communicative environment.
XOXO,
Sexy Suzy
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