Hello Dears,
If you watch Broad City, you probably know about pegging, when a person with a vagina anally penetrates a person with a penis while wearing a strap-on dildo. This act is gaining popularity because it changes up typical power dynamics and unlocks the amazing potential of the prostate. Often viewed as the equivalent of the G-spot for people with penises, the prostate (sometimes called the P-spot) can be a remarkable source of sexual pleasure. The prostate is an anally accessible, walnut sized gland that is involved in semen production. It is located at the root of the penis underneath the bladder. Many people with penises of all genders and sexual orientations (yes even cisgender heterosexual men, anal doesn’t make someone gay!) enjoy pegging and for good reason.
Regular prostate massages can have amazing health benefits, including but not limited to reducing the risk of prostate cancer, prostasis, erectile dysfunction, and frequent nighttime urination. Beyond the health benefits, there are of course the sexual benefits to anal play. When stimulated the prostate can enable up to 33% more intense orgasms than can be attained by penile friction alone.
There are many varied ways to take part in anal play, pegging, prostate massages, and toys just to name a few. No matter which method you try make sure to use plenty of lube! If you think you are using enough lube, use more. Don’t use a lubricant with a numbing agent as that may take away pleasure sensations and increase the possibility for injury. When first exploring a partner who has no experience being anally penetrated make sure to take it slow and always listen to what they want and what feels good to them. Consider using a small toy first, someone who is not used to penetration needs to get used to relaxing their anal sphincter before they can fully enjoy prostate pleasure. There are strap-on beginners kits available for people who are interested but not yet ready to be penetrated by a full sized dildo.
I know what some of you are thinking, what’s in it for me? Many people with vaginas enjoy pegging for different reasons. Some of those reasons can include the power and domination aspect. The fun of role reversal inherent in becoming the penetrator rather than the penetratee, and possibly even physical stimulation depending on the type of toy you may be using.
Before trying any anal play with your partner it is very important to have an in-depth conversation about it first. Make sure to discuss boundaries and levels of interest. While anal play may not be for everyone it is certainly a fun thing to consider trying if you are looking to spice things up.
XOXO,
Sexy Suzy
thesalemite.org 