Hello Dears,
Last month we talked about buying the right sex toy. But what if you aren’t sure what to do with it? Masturbation is something that nobody ever teaches you. So here are a few tips and tricks to help you get started, or just to shake up your routine a bit.
- Seduce yourself. Getting in the right mindset is important for allowing yourself to focus on what feels right. Some ways to get yourself in the mood include playing soft music, exploring your body with a massage, watching porn, or some fantasizing. Do what works best for you and never judge yourself for what you like.
- Focus on exploring. Now that you are comfortable and mentally lathered spend some time learning what feels right. A lot of people put too much goal-oriented pressure on themselves to reach orgasm. Don’t worry about where you are going, simply make sure you are enjoying what you are doing. Not sure where to start? Most people with vaginas find success in stimulating their clitorises. Try varying strokes, different levels of pressure, and different numbers of fingers. If you want to search for your G-spot, it is typically located just a few inches in on the front wall of the vagina. It should feel like the roof of your mouth and is usually the size of a dime or a nickel. Try looking when you are turned on as it becomes engorged with blood. However, once again remember everyone is different so whether you are an inside or an outside person just do what feels right.
- Take your time. While exploring remember that it takes most people with vaginas a fair amount of time to go through this process, on average people with vaginas take about 20 minutes to orgasm. But every person is different so this is all about getting to know yourself and your needs. Don’t stress if you don’t reach orgasm, it takes many people several times.
- Bonus tips. Try using lube to help your fingers glide over your clitoris more easily. Use varying positions, some people like to be on their stomachs, switch it up every now and then, try sitting in a chair or lying on your back or even leaning over the side of the bed.
Most importantly, make sure you keep an open mind and enjoy yourself!
XOXO,
Sexy Suzy
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